Let me invite you to celebrate your new beginning after separating from your partner. A beginning filled with the fresh breeze of a different life and a new adventure.
In my own experience, splitting up is never easy because you transform a being that you have formed with another into a new way of living, of existing. Calling the change in relating quitting can feel tough. Because it implies that you are losing something. While in truth, you are gaining a brand new life.
Sit back and pause for a moment. Feel yourself in all of this. Rethink, re-evaluate, and then – from a more empowered point of view – choose to see separation as a new chapter in your book of life.
In the following, I want to introduce a few alternative points of view to you. I hope that sharing my insights will help you to see things in a more life-giving light.
YOU GET TO CREATE YOUR ENTIRE EXPERIENCE AS YOU WISH. AND THIS IS SOMETHING WORTH CELEBRATING
Let me take you back in time for a moment. Surely – like most people – you have been celebrating new beginnings during your entire life. So I assume that, until this very moment, you look back on a history of celebrated milestones – either your own or those that were celebrated for your loved ones. You honored births with birthdays, marriages with ceremonies, enjoyed weddings, engagement parties, and graduations.
So why do we celebrate moments in life? Because we want to mark a new beginning or a milestone with joy. Most commonly, we feel that the best way to do that is by inviting our loved ones to be part of it and share our joy with them. Would you agree?
DIVORCES ARE NO FAILURE, AS – IN ALL HONESTY – NOTHING IN LIFE IS
As I have come to know, all and everything simply is an experience. An experience that expands my horizon and makes me richer on the path that I walk on this earth. I believe everything that happens is for me, not against me.
If you similar to me in this sense, then you tend to have specific visions for your life and like to imagine your own fairy tales. But life sometimes leads us on a very different path than what we map out for ourselves.
But just because something doesn’t turn out the way you initially planned and have set your mind to, doesn’t mean it isn’t valuable. In fact, everything – if you like it or dislike it – brings more clarity. And specifically, this clarity regarding what you don’t want for yourself is even more precious than knowing what you do want. Because it indeed defines and refines precisely what you want and helps you to realize your own desires.
IT IS BY REMOVING ALL OBSTACLES, DAMAGING SITUATIONS AND PAIN, THAT YOU EVENTUALLY DISCOVER OR REDISCOVER YOUR TRUE ESSENCE
When separation or divorce knocks at your door – like it did at mine, after 10 years of being with my former partner – take the challenge and see it as what it truly is, underneath all the pain and confusion: An event that marks a new chapter in your life.
Seeing it this way is something that should be honored. So, celebrate your new sense of freedom, autonomy, and authentic identity. Celebrate discovering a new, different and richer you!
Although separation indeed is a challenging process that can take different shades including doubt, fear, guilt, blame, regret and shame, it is simply an invitation to transformation. It’s a chance to grow into a fuller, richer, wiser YOU. I’ve personally experienced a profound release of a lot of tension and resistance towards it through choosing to see it as a fresh start, a chance for new amazing experiences to unfold. Then allowed the Universe to confirm it. And so it did! 🙂
YOU’LL HAVE THE STRONGEST, MOST RESPONSIBLE AND RELIABLE PERSON TO TAKE CARE OF YOU: YOURSELF!
My divorce also encouraged me to finally step into my true power and take full responsibility for my life. From there I have been able to live joyfully, regardless of what takes place in my sphere. I know life will take me towards more magical and exciting experiences, for as long as I take charge of whatever happens to me – or rather FOR me. The same is true for you. And you inherently know that YOU will always be at your side, hence never ever left behind.
With this realization, I truly hope you will accept this invitation to celebrate yourself! You are worthy of being celebrated in your uniqueness, your personal expression, with all your so-called flaws and all your beauty! You are worth it just because you are YOU – and there is no one else like you out there. Do you see how incredibly precious this makes you?
Your new beginning is as meaningful as any other occasion you celebrated throughout your life, if not even more. Open your arms to this unfolding of yours and full-heartedly embrace it, celebrate it in your own unique way!
After my divorce was officially pronounced, I felt I want to be surrounded by my loved ones in a loving closure ceremony, followed by a celebration – that became a tribute to a meaningful new chapter. I now remember the event with lots of joy, I truly feel that this celebration came as a change of perception and direction.
I’ve been with my former husband for 10 years and when our marriage came to an end, I realized I had two choices: to reject change and fall into bitterness or to fully embrace it and reinvent myself.
I decided to envision our divorce as a doorway towards evolution, new meaningful experiences, joyful discoveries.
Here you can have a look at my divorce ceremony:
Remember to treat yourself kindly and fully trust that life is working in your favor. This is your super power, it always has been!Go on a Honeymoon with Your Self
Written by Cristina from YOUniverse Revival Community